Some people are naturally positive and optimistic, whereas others tend to see the world in a more negative light and always think the glass is half-empty. I call these folks “Eeyore”, like from Winnie-the –Pooh. So, it is only natural that some people tend to complain more than others do. However, contrary to popular belief, complaining is not always related to how pessimistic or unhappy a person is. Most of us have things we complain about, yet there are some people that seem to complain about anything & everything. Like my grandpa used to say … some people would complain about being hung with a new rope!

Just because someone complains a lot, does not necessarily mean they are unhappy, although it does say something about their “mental” attitude. Certainly there is some connection between what happens in someone's life and the things that they complain about. You almost expect one to complain when the going gets tough – that’s why we admire those that don’t complain when going through a rough patch. Some people though, seem to complain a lot regardless of life's bounty. We all know someone that would complain about living in … Hawaii, so to speak.

There are different reasons why people complain. For some, complaining comes out of a true sense of unhappiness. They are unhappy about themselves or about their lives and they express this by complaining to others about their bad fortune. When people are that unhappy it doesn’t matter what happens in their lives, because they will always find something to complain about. They need to complain, because for them it is a way of coping with their unhappiness, unfortunately for the rest of us. This is different to the everyday complaining most people do. We all complain sometimes, about little things that happen to us, like being stuck in traffic or the weather or missing some appointment. This is normal & acceptable … in moderation.

Some will complain out of habit. That’s just how they see the world and want to let you know it. Maybe it got them some attention when they were young … now it’s a life-long habit. We all know the guy or gal like this; we used to call them “sad-sacks”. SNL did a spoof on it with the “Debbie Downer” skits. She always had a sad way of looking at EVERYTHING. It was funny, but it was true for a lot of folks.

Please don’t be a complainer. It isn’t mature, it isn’t professional, it isn’t endearing, it isn’t even funny (most of the time) … be a problem solver, not a complainer. Change the things you have a chance to and suck up the bad times with a little dignity, cuz we ALL have bad times, but it’s how we handle them that make us better people – inside & out!!

See ya at the gym!!